It seems like  Christians are big on virginity. Sometimes it seems like our biggest goal as Christians is to get over the marriage line with our virginity intact.

This stance raises a whole heap of questions

What message does this send to those have lost their virginity already? Are they damaged goods?

What about the couple who may be technically virgins on their wedding night but have done everything but sex?

What does the Bible say about virginity?

When I look at the New Testament the word virginity is about as absent as good music at a Justin Bieber concert. The thing that matters in the New Testament is obedience.

Paul says:

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your bodies. (1 Corinthians 6:12-20)

The point is not virginity but the honouring of God with our bodies. This means that wherever we are we are to honour God because of what Christ has done.

What Paul is saying is that we should pursue gospel shaped obedience.

That means for the person that has lost their virginity we shouldn’t give them such an asinine title like “born again virgin” but we should be saying “in light of the gospel pursue obedience”

To the couple that are technically virgins but are doing everything but have sex we can say “your goal is gospel shaped obedience and that means you need to draw line at what you do a long way back.”

To the person struggling with same sex attraction we say “Pursue gospel shaped obedience”

To the teenager whose friends are sleeping together we say “Pursue gospel shaped obedience”

We need to reframe our conversation our conversation should be really about obedience not virginity.

What are your thoughts?



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